What We Do: Submission

Those who have never heard the call of the cuffs or song of the canes ask us all the time: why do we do it? Even if we are not hard-wired to be masochists (those who directly associate pain with sexual arousal), why are we still drawn to this? The answer is complex because, of course, humans are messy creatures. We couldn’t possibly be straightforward, and half the time, we don’t know why we do what we do. Our motivation is different, of course, depending on which side of the dynamic we’re on, but we can draw some general ideas. Submission “You know how you feel when you get home from a long week of hard work, and even though you love your job, you have to leave it behind? I never got that. Maybe it’s the emotional labor of taking care of kids and family and job and friends, […]